Have you ever taken a moment to truly listen to the chatter that goes on nonstop in your head?
You know, that ongoing commentary focusing on your past or your future or on what you should have or could have done differently? The voice that tells you what is and is not possible, that limits you by reminding you of every single time you failed and comments how this next opportunity will be the just the same. The nagging internal critic who says isn’t is better to be safe than to take a risk?
We all have this internal critic who has anointed itself King or Queen of the Kingdom. This tyrannical monarch rules your mind by preoccupying you with an endless list of judgments about yourself and others. This tricky little devil’s favorite story is the one that says if you give up your self condemnation and self abuse you will become a slacker who will never accomplish another thing.
It’s enough to make a person go lie down and pull the covers over my head.
What if you were listening to a voice of trust and love instead? One that said, “I know you can do this. Take all the time you need. I believe in you. I know you are wonderful, courageous and have more strength than you can imagine.”
When you stop judging yourself, you open up a new world of possibilities. Without self judgment, you can hear the voice of your inspiration, intuition and wisdom. These two voices cannot coexist. How can you hear intuitive guidance when your internal critic rants on about “how you’ll never get anywhere, you’ll never amount to anything. I can’t believe you’re this age and you still haven’t gotten it together.”
I used to believe self judgment was a tool that gave me an edge, kept me sharp and ahead of the curve. As cruel as the messages were, I mistakenly thought they kept me honest and humble. Then one day when I decided I could not take it anymore. I vowed, no matter how hard it was, to find a way to turn up the small voice of wisdom and love and let the rest of it take care of itself.
I soon realized all the negative energy judgment created in my life and how I could focus better without it. I saw the voice of judgment keeping me small and blocking my true gifts, inspiration and insight. Giving up self judgment did not cause me to sit idly by and stop striving for what I wanted. Instead, I had more energy to create my work. By systematically silencing the inner critic each time it raised its little monkey head I got deeply in touch with my inner self.
The voice of that inner critic is a lie for every single one of us. It has been said if we treated our friends the way we treat ourselves, we would all be in jail. Time to escape! Each of us are whole, beautiful, and divine souls who have gotten trapped in the illusion of being broken, wrong and separate. When you are still and tune into to your highest self you allow the truth of your inner beauty to resonate within your heart.
Imagine encouraging yourself, supporting yourself and giving yourself the love and appreciation you so easily give to others? That is your true birthright and the path to wisdom, intuition, and freedom.
Call to Action:
For the next month, practice noticing your self judgments.
Take the time to really tune into that critical voice in your head. When you recognize it, stop, take a deep breath and congratulate yourself. Noticing is a critical first step.
Now take a moment and consider what else you can tell yourself that is true in this moment?
What would your dearest friend say? What would any Ascended Master say to you?
What is the most loving supportive thing you can breathe in right now?
When you get the answer, let yourself feel the power and the truth of it.
Being this practice of self love and watch your life shifts forward into possibilities.
Tara Crawford Roth, CEC is a Certified Intuitive Coach and the Founder of the New England Holistic Chamber of Commerce, a non-profit organization dedicated to supporting holistic professionals through networking and business development opportunities for like-minded business owners. A lifelong intuitive, former executive and certified coach, Tara trains other coaches through iPEC’s ICF accredited program. She specializes in intuitive leadership development teaching skills that empower her clients to live and work with greater confidence, authenticity and creativity.